A mother booked her daughter’s dream beachfront wedding venue—only to have her sister beg her to change it. Past affairs, family heartbreak, and long-standing tensions collided, raising the question: What happens when family loyalty clashes with long-held dreams?
A woman shared her story on Reddit.
She explained that she had posted her family drama online because it was already igniting debate. She wrote:
“I (51F) put down a $20K non-refundable deposit on this gorgeous beachfront estate for my daughter,
let’s call her Amy’s (26F), wedding next September. We booked it 18 months out. For context, and without revealing too much, it’s THE venue in our area, and it has been Amy’s dream wedding spot in all of her Pinterest boards.”
The trouble began when her sister Carol (53F) uncovered something upsetting. She discovered news about her cheating ex-husband that cut deeply. “Last month, my sister found out her cheating ex-husband, let’s call him Mark (55M), proposed to his coworker (28F—she was 22 when they started having an affair) who he had been having an affair with. The woman posted engagement photos from the same venue… specifically the beautiful beach area where Amy plans to have her ceremony.”
Carol was devastated.
The woman continued: “She called me sobbing, begging me to change venues.
Says she can’t watch Amy get married where Mark proposed to a girl younger than his own daughter. Can’t smile for photos on THAT beach.”
The mother then explained the impossible position she felt she was in: “I feel sick for her. I do.
But: Save-the-dates already sent. Amy’s dreamed of this venue since high school. Everything else is booked or three times the price.”
She went on: “I told Carol I can’t lose the deposit and crush Amy’s dreams. Carol says I’m choosing money over her mental health. That I’m forcing her to relive the worst betrayal of her life for ’pretty pictures’.”
Even Amy shared her perspective.
“I also talked to Amy about it, and she does not want a venue change.
That it’s not her fault Mark (who has been out of all our lives for the last 5 years) ruined that place for Carol.”
But the conversation only inflamed tensions further. “Carol called Amy a ’spoiled’ person who wouldn’t understand real pain.”
Then came the fallout. “Now Carol’s skipping Thanksgiving.
My and Carol’s side of the family (her daughters and, to some extent, my parents) says I’m heartless.
The place is cursed anyway, why should we host Amy’s big day there?”
She ended her post with a final reflection on the family divide: “My husband’s side of the family says Carol doesn’t get to hijack Amy’s wedding because her husband’s a cheater.”
