My hubby got a tattoo 1.5 years ago. It wasn’t my thing, but he’s free to do what he wants with his body.
He took me to work and introduced me to his coworker, and I immediately saw that his tattoo matched her jewelry. A little feather hung from a twisted loop, which was unusual. Unique, delicate, personal.
I stopped when I saw it. My spouse observed my expression, but I smiled and said “nice to meet you.”
Her name was Nia. She seemed cheerful and confident, but her easy laughter at his jokes and casual touch on his arm unnerved me. Still, I kept silent. My evidence was lacking.
Again that night, I inquired about the tattoo. Lighthearted—“Remind me again what inspired it?” He hesitated too long. Then shrug. “Just liked the design.” He stated that without looking at me. And I knew.
Yet again, I said nothing. But what do you say? “Hey, your coworker has the same neck design—is your tattoo about her?” It sounded insane to me. Maybe that was insane. Possibly a coincidence. So I let go. A while.
I discovered a bracelet receipt in his wallet three weeks later. It was hidden under his credit cards, like he forgot. I wasn’t eligible—my birthday was months ago.
When questioned, he stated it was for his mom’s retirement. I believed him primarily out of want. But something kept eating me. I kept thinking about the feather tattoo.
Noticed items. He had no explanation for late nights. An unfamiliar cologne. He began turning his phone face-down and taking “calls from work.”
It felt wrong. I didn’t want drama. I wanted to know whether I was dreaming things or if my marriage was quietly falling apart as I ignored it.
I opened his laptop in the shower, something I never imagined I would do. I discovered what I needed in his email drafts without knowing it. A message for her. He hadn’t mailed it yet, but that was plenty.
“Only you make the office bearable. I can only pretend we’re coworkers so long. I got a tattoo to carry a bit of you while we’re apart. It was risky, but I don’t regret it.”
My pulse raced as I closed the laptop. The type of despair that scrapes your ribs made my hands shake, not fury. It was how little I felt at that moment, not the betrayal. I felt like a supporting figure in my relationship.
I delayed confronting him. Though I wanted to, I didn’t want to erupt emotionally. A strategy was required. So I waited. I examined my priorities.
Thinking about my career, family, and halted marital aspirations. I understood I didn’t desire vengeance. I wished tranquility. Wanted dignity. I secretly contacted a divorce attorney to start the process.
I invited him to supper a week later. I chose a tranquil spot. I told him I knew when we seated. I shared the tattoo, email draft, and everything. First, he denied. Then he tried crying. Then he blamed job stress. Typical script.
I didn’t shout. I looked him in the eyes and said, “I hope she was worth losing me over.” That quieted him immediately.
He left the next weekend. I didn’t inquire where. I cared not.
Surprise—it’s not heartbreak. It followed.
I saw someone from his workplace in a coffee shop three months later. Despite our distance, she recognized me. She looked uneasy. After small chat, she remarked, “You know, Nia quit a few weeks after he left. Odd situation.”
Raised eyebrow. “Oh?”
A bit leaning in. “Yeah. After you left him, she lost interest. She was also dating. It was messy.”
I almost laughed. Karma resolves things strangely. It turns out she never planned a future with him. He jumped ship believing he was going toward something greater, but it was only a lifeboat with a hole.
I rebuilt. Somewhat slowly. Finding me again. Reconnected with old pals. My camera was put away when we got married because he considered it “a hobby, not a career.”
After six months, I was scheduling engagements, photos, and even two weddings. People enjoyed my work. Once again, I liked myself.
One wedding introduced me to someone new. His name was Mateo. Older brother of the groom. He was simple—kind eyes, dry humor, and a secure groundedness. We spoke in the reception and he suggested coffee. I agreed but was hesitant.
Our pace was sluggish. I told him everything early on—not out of animosity, but to avoid secrets. He listened. He remained calm. It sounds like you’ve healed a lot, he remarked. That’s unusual.”
Our growth continued from there. No drama. Guessing prohibited. Genuine, slow-growing affection.
We’ve been together nearly a year. He’s tattoo-free. But he surprised me lately with a personalized jewelry. My favorite flower, a sunflower, has “Grow where you’re planted” etched in little characters on the reverse. Not showy. But everything matters.
The best part? He failed to impress me. He didn’t want to prove anything by marking his body. He wants me to have something wonderful to wear when I forget my progress.
Sometimes people wonder whether I regret not addressing my ex sooner. Might have fought harder. Actually, leaving was the struggle. The true strength was staying quiet while I planned, finding serenity amid the storm, and choosing grace over retribution.
Getting even didn’t help. I won by being free.
I tell this not to vent bad laundry, but to reassure someone—maybe you—that you’re not insane if anything seems strange. If your heart knows, believe it.
Let them choose someone else over you. You’re not pickable. You’re no backup. You’re someone’s world waiting discovery.
What about that tattoo?
He concealed it six months later. Someone emailed me a photo. Only a black band remains. No more feathers, tales. A lie’s place is empty.
My flower is a sunflower. Still flowering. Still facing light.
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